In a world where life is so busy and time flies by, we have developed a strong misconception about January. We appear to believe there is a need to change the way we do things suddenly. This mainly stems from the tradition of new year’s resolutions. The Collins dictionary definition of a new years resolution states:
“a promise to yourself or decision to do something, especially to improve one’s behaviour or lifestyle in some way, during the year ahead”
What’s the rush?
I would like you to focus on the last four words of the dictionary definition “during the year ahead.” Those four words imply that rather than rush headlong into the new year’s resolutions, you’ve set yourself. You can take your time and set a steady pace to develop a long term plan. Easing yourself, realistically, into the life improvements you have decided upon. With most resolutions failing before January is even over. Now is the time to re-adjust our thinking of how we start each new year.
Two years ago, I was quite ill over the new year and into the first weeks of January. As a result, I spent a long time in bed; I did think about my life and where I was at present during this time. As well as what I still wanted to accomplish and what new year resolutions I wanted to make.
Since I couldn’t begin on my resolutions straight away, I had time to think about them honestly. This allowed me to focus more on how I was going to go about accomplishing them. Once I started to feel better, I decided that I would take my time to relax, recuperate, and enjoy being in the moment, before easing myself into my goals in an orderly, attainable manner.
This has worked wonderfully for me ever since. Taking this approach and including my resolutions on a vision board helped me kick my smoking habit easily. In the past, I’d tried over and over again and never succeeded. This time by getting my head in the right place and taking the time, I did it. I have now been smoke-free for over two years.
Take your time
For example, if you are trying to lose a few pounds to attain a healthy weight. Instead of going all out and starting a strict exercise regime, which you may find impossible to keep up. Or cutting out all the foods you love and going on a strict diet. Try instead to start fitting in a 20-minute brisk walk each day or a yoga sun salutation each morning. Once this becomes a habit, then add to it, walk for longer, turn it into a jog, add another type of exercise.
Change your eating habits slowly, cut the sugary drinks and snacks down. Maybe eat 80% healthy and 20% other each week. By taking things at a slow, steady pace you are giving yourself the chance to develop life long habits. You won’t feel like you are missing out on a nice meal. And you will be fine to enjoy a night out or a special occasion without feeling guilty. You won’t feel like you can’t keep up with a tough new exercise regime. By building your fitness levels and eating habits up over time and you will find you achieve more long term success.
January for many animals is a month of hibernation and whilst I am not suggesting you stay in bed until spring, I do believe with darker, colder days we should be spending more time nourishing our bodies. Easing ourselves into the new year with a sense of excitement for our journey ahead. We shouldn’t be setting ourselves goals that have unrealistic time frames and expectations. Our hearts are beating and we are alive, enjoy the moment and the new journey you are embarking upon.
New year resolutions and what you love
It is essential to ensure any tough new year’s resolutions are offset with the inclusion of things you love. This way, you are not focusing solely on a complete change of lifestyle. Make sure you include time to do something you already enjoy doing. If you like painting, schedule an evening where you paint instead of collapsing in front of the TV. If you enjoy going to the cinema, write some cinema days on your calendar and stick to going on those days. We can’t completely change our lives with New Years Resolutions, but we can improve them if we take the time to do it properly.
One of our new year resolutions is to continue smudging my home periodically throughout the year. Clearing my family’s living space of negative energies is something I feel I need to do. You can use many herbs to do this, with the most common being sage smudge sticks, cedar, and sweetgrass. You may also use palo santo sticks for space clearing. I have decided that this coming year, I want to bring even more spirituality and peace into my family and my life, and this is one way of working towards this. So I think all that’s left to say is:
“We wish you a very happy year ahead, filled with love and best wishes”
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