Self-care and self-love. In today’s society, we are made to feel guilty for taking the time to love and care for ourselves. It is seen as a selfish act to spend time on our own needs and wants. While there are others that need our help or depend on our time. But how can you be there for someone, if you haven’t taken the time to be there for yourself?
“You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~ Eleanor Brown.
Self-care has a formidable power. Which allows a person to bring positivity and hope into every aspect of their life. By removing any self-doubt and loathing and replacing it with confidence and love. There are so many different ways to develop a loving relationship with ourselves. So, we are going to share with you some of our favorites.
Find your motivation. I want my children to grow up knowing self-care is a healthy and wonderful gift to give yourself and others. Once you have realized your motivation, you are more likely to keep on track. If any self-deprecating thoughts crop up along the way. Then you will know why you started this journey, which will give you the encouragement to carry on.
Begin by looking at why you want to incorporate more self-care into your life. Tell yourself why you deserve to spend more time allowing yourself this attention. After all, each and every one of us does deserve our own self-care and love. As I said earlier my reason was my family. For me to be all that I wanted to be for them, I needed to be all that I could be for me.
2. Self-care rituals
Begin some self-care rituals. This is a quick and easy start to feeling good. What can you incorporate into your day to day life to show yourself some love? Identify your wants and needs then make time for these things. These can include anything to make you feel cared for.
On the left is a printable list of ideas to start you off. Just click on the picture to download. (You can also find a downloadable ritual tracker in our daily rituals blog here).
3. Be yourself
Stop comparing yourself to others. This is one of the hardest things to do when you are starting on your journey. It’s easy to look at someone on the internet and believe their life is perfect. Especially, when you see all the perfect pictures and stories they post. However, it is important to remember that no one’s life is picture-perfect.
Everyone has heartache and struggles at some point. But most people will never share these with strangers. Therefore, this gives a false impression of a perfect life. We all have unique lives made up of our own stories, feelings, thoughts, and perspectives. So remember, there is no comparison, as no one else has lived your life.
4. Find your tribe
No matter how independent you are, you still need a tribe. A group of people who will help you and keep you motivated. Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. Are you surrounded by positive inspiring people? Do they understand the art of self-care and self-love? If not then it’s time to find your tribe.
5. Love your body
With “supposedly perfect” bodies plastered all over the media. This has become a modern-day struggle. But who decides on what’s perfect? In the late 1400’s Botticelli’s painting, the birth of Venus celebrated a voluptuous physique. Whereas nowadays the media portrays beautiful as flawless. Where there is no wrinkles or dimples insight, which we all know is impossible and down to the magic of photo editing. Our bodies are part of our unique story. The scar you got falling from your bike at 10 years old is yours and yours alone.
Those stretch marks you have from carrying your child are the marks of love. That bit of flabby skin you have from working hard to lose a little weight is a sign of perseverance. Look at what you believe are your faults because they are not. Remember the story behind them and nurture your own self-love.
6. Practice forgiveness
None of us can move on in life when we are holding on to our past. We need to clear these blocks to move forward. Being weighed down by anger and hurt will not help your journey of self-care. Forgiving does not mean condoning something. It simply means not allowing it to affect your present and your future. So forgive yourself for past mistakes, forgive other’s behavior or misdeeds. Finally, learn from what has happened then allow yourself to move forward.
“ The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong“ ~ Mahatma Gandhi
7. Live a healthy life
Health is different for everyone. As we already know each and every one of us is unique. We have different health needs, different diets, different metabolisms, different illnesses and more. So when we say live a healthy life, we mean a healthy life for you.
Incorporate the best diet you can, along with the best exercises for you and your body. I know someone who eats a high-fat diet, as their illness leaves them at risk of malnourishment. Another person I know can’t stand for long unaided so practices a lot of chair exercises and sitting yoga. So, find your health needs and tailor your goals to them. While living your healthiest life now.
8. Have a bad day list
We all have bad days. Days beyond our control where we feel helpless, upset, low or angry. These days are the days we need to practice self-care the most. They are the days we struggle and the days we don’t want to bother. It is therefore vital we have a plan in place to bring us back to self-love.
On a good day write a list of things that make you feel cared for and loved. Ensure you take into account different time frames for each thing. While also making sure you have what you need to accomplish these things. If you love the simple pleasure of sitting with a facemask on, make sure you have some in the house for on a bad day. Then carve out time to sit quietly with one on.
If you love listening to music, make a playlist full of your favorite, uplifting songs and sit and listen to it. Better yet move your body to it. Furthermore, if you need help with a few ideas, take a quick look at the printable list of ideas for self-love and care from earlier. Whatever you need to refill your cup, put on this list.
There are so many more things we can do to show ourselves self-care and love. Feel free to add to this list and enhance your life wherever possible. The more loved we feel, the more love we exude. The more full our life, the more we have to share. Self-care is not selfish, it is all-encompassing. The more we hold the more we have to give.
”If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.” ~ Fred Rogers
Don’t forget for more information on how to ‘Ways to show yourself some love’ life click here. Also, remember to keep an eye out for new self-care ideas and share any of your self-love rituals with us at @surrender_to_happiness. We love finding new ways to practice self-care. Plus if you need to keep track of your rituals check out our article on “Introducing daily rituals into your life” and download the free printable ritual tracker.
Lastly, for more wellness tips and information check out the wellbeing section of our blog. As well as taking a look at the lifestyle section for more lifestyle tips. And if you are looking for some wonderful face masks. Take a look at our pink and green clay ones. Both are wonderful for the skin.